Develop A Bond

Points on developing a bond with our children as suggested by Pn Halimahton in her e-book Genius in 28 Steps are;

• Establish mutual respect and trust
• Try to spend a lot of quality time
• Be consistent and reasonable when interacting
• For older child, try to make him feel like he can confide in you virtually anything
• Talk regularly with your child
• Be thoughtful and reasonable when converse

Let us together try to practice all the above to our childrens.

How To Develop A Bond

In my previous post, I shared on how we need to have a good understanding of our child's personality and interests if we want to teach them effectively. However, that is only part of requirement in developing a bond with our child, as they (our children) will also need to familiarise themselves with our habits and routines. Today I am going to write and share with all of you valuable tips that mother to Sufiah Yusoff the Malaysian prodigy, Pn Halimahton on how to develop a bond with our children.

According to Pn Halimahton bond is extremely important, because by establishing mutual respect and trust between you and your child will have a tremendous positive effect to the quality of your interactions with them, and make the task of teaching them much smoother.

Ok, got to go will try to continue on important points in developing a bond later.

Pratical Examples

It has been quite some time I've stop blogging. Well so many things come at the same time that required my attention this few weeks.

Today I would like to share with you all on several practical examples on how are we going to incorporate our children's hobbies or favourites in our teaching activities with them.

From the examples given by Pn Halimahton in her e-book Genius in 28 Steps I did try to practice it with my kids.

My second daughter Nur Shahmina is happy to spend many hours with PC, so I try to teach her alphabet recognition using the keyboard. I've mentioned in my previous post, my eldest Nur Shahindah is so in to drawings, but doesn't like to practice writing. So what I do is I tried to talk with her about why she particularly likes drawing, and why she doesn't like to practice writing. Her instance answer is "writing alphabet does not pretty". So now I know that she always like something that is pretty to look at or in other words interesting. As solution I asked her to first draw what ever she likes, than I guide her to write the name of the object she draw.

Know Your Child

How to understand your older children

Pn Halimahton Yusof suggested us to find answers to the following questions.

What are your child's hobbies and interests and why does he enjoy these activities?

What are your child's favourite subjects and why?

What are your child's least-liked subjects and why?

What personality traits does he have that might hinder him in his studies (such as a low attention span or being uncommunicative)?

As far as his schoolwork is concerned, how detailed an understanding do you have of his strengths and weaknesses?

Do you normally know when your child is in the mood for studying?

to read more you can get the e-book "Genius in 28 Steps" at www.learnerade.com

Know Your Child

It is essential for all of us (especially those mummy's out there) to know your child's personality, existing capabilities, and current mood in order for us to determine our child willingness and ability to learn at any given time.



Pn Halimahton Yusof in her e-book "Genius in 28 Steps" has specifically discussed several ways that could be practice by parents on how to understand your younger and older children's.

Those who have babies or toddlers, need to be more observant of our child's reactions whenever we perform a different actions. Babies use crying as their way of communication. We the parents need to learnt to distinguish each type of cries e.g. he might be hungry, angry, or in pain. Through this process we will eventually able to understand why the baby crying and this will let us to respond appropriately to them. Other than crying, an older babies will coo and babbles as a precursor to speech.

From noting what our baby likes to gaze it, we will be able to deduce the kinds of things he is interested. While from babies overall facial expression we could determine whether he is happy, sad, bored, tired, etc.

Mother of Sufiah Yusof also stated that one final point to note is that all children change and evolve over time, so our overall understanding of our child's personality and the way we interact with him must grow in parallel with his own development.

Part V : Miscellaneous

Got some free time, so I decided to finish up overview of chapters in "Genius in 28 Steps". Final chapter labelled as Miscellaneous by Pn Halimahton Yusof. I personally likes this chapter as for me it is like a special note for all us especially all the mothers out there.

This final part gives us tips on how to choose and use good toys and books (Chapter 27 & 28). Lastly Pn Halimahton Yusof share with us few notes for busy people (working mother) and those who have to handle many children (Chapter 29 : Special Considerations).

Up there are some toys, books and other tools that I share with my kids to read, play and learn.

Mmm.. I personally found her notes on this last part especially the Special Consideration very helpful. As I have to handle three kids, who their age gap is so close (5,3 and 1 years), phew... those who are in the same boat with me will sure understand what am I trying to say here.

Part IV: Teaching Techniques

Not all of us are born to be a teacher or be able to teach others. But all parents are actually the best teacher for their own child. No matter what, in order for us to ensure our children success, beside their school teacher, we should also play the role as teacher in their learning process.








Part IV describing seven teaching techniques that we could apply in teaching our children daily.



We are our child's best role model. Chapter 20 in this Part IV better explaining this. We must demonstrate through our own actions anything that we want our child to learn.




Next, practice makes perfect. Chapter 21 explain to us how important it is for us to encourage our children to continuously practice what ever his or her new skills. As mentioned in the "Genius in 28 Steps" practicing will lead to mastery.


Some of Kak Da's art work



To ensure our children will grasp better understanding of what ever they learnt, we need to divide complex learning tasks into small, easy-to-achieve objectives. Pn Halimahton Yusof explain this as Divide & Conquer (Chapter 22).



After all the teaching we also need to get feedback from our children. Feedback here, does not necessarily comment from your children, it may also comes from your own assessment of your children expression or body language. This are among issues discuss in Chapter 23-Feedback.



Pn Halimahton express on how important it is for us to Go with the Flow in Chapter 24. We need to guide our children along the lines of their existing interests.


Image of mermaid again by Kak Da.

From my observation, Shahindah likes to draw. Among items that she likes to draw are images of girls, her mother, father and younger sister and brother. She also like colouring so much. While my "Adik" her interest is more towards computer operating, calculators and hand phone.

See you all in my next post for more information on "Genius in 28 Steps".